Envy appears to be the word of the day for our daily prompt, and while I know what it is and how it manifests itself in the human condition, I can honestly say it’s one of the 7 Deadly Sins that I don’t fall victim to. Though it really only becomes a “Deadly Sin” when one forsakes the worship of the Christian god in order to chase whatever it is one is envious of. Like if my neighbors have a nice house and a loving family, and I suddenly decide that I want their house, or one like it, and a loving family just like theirs and that becomes my all consuming goal in life — even if I have to cheat, borrow, beg, steal, or kill to get it. That’s when Envy becomes a deadly sin. Worry not. I like my house and my family just the way it is. My neighbors are safe from me. ^_^
I’ve been perfectly content with what I have for the most part and don’t set my goals by what other people have, so therefore envy has played little part in my life. I don’t judge my beauty by society’s standards because those standards change — a lot — and I don’t care to change with them. I don’t give a rat’s ass what’s fashionable because that changes even more often than what’s considered beautiful. And — more often than not — what society has considered beautiful and fashionable in the past (and today) I think is pretty blah and sometimes downright ugly as sin. I like what I like. I don’t care what others have, or what they look like, or what they say I should have, or how I should look, nor do I feel the need to live up to their standards. Screw that noise.
I have felt the bite of Envy’s sibling, Jealousy once or twice, but it was a nibble here and there, and it didn’t last long. Jealousy is different than Envy in that jealousy usually involves something one already has and is afraid of losing. Which is why that word gets tossed around in love triangles. A person can be envious of another’s good looks, but they’re jealous of time two friends spend together without them. A dragon will jealously guard its treasure, but be envious of another’s hoard.
Here’s the thing though, I’ve had a few relationships in my nearly 50 years on this planet. Most have been pretty good relationships that ended amicably for the most part. Oh, I’ve had a couple of bad eggs here and there, but they didn’t ruin the pot for the rest of them. I’ve always thought of my relationships this way, if it was meant to be, it’s meant to be. If not, time to move on then. With love interests the most important ingredient in any relationship is trust. I can’t be jealous of time spent away from me because that shows a huge lack of trust. And if I cannot trust my partner to be away from me, then I cannot trust them. Period (full stop). Jealousy has no place in any relationship, and therefore I have no need for jealousy. I let it bite me then I shake it off. My first husband saw my lack of jealousy as a sign that I didn’t love him enough. He went out of his way to make me jealous — which certainly showed how insecure he was in the relationship (but that’s neither here nor there). One of the many reasons why he’s my first husband. But honestly, I don’t think a lack of jealousy denotes a lack of affection, the opposite really. It’s a useless emotion. As useless as its sibling, envy. I know I’ve never found a use for it. Therefore I simply don’t have it in my repertoire.
Just for fun, Envy vs. Greed in a fun little video.